By: Anasia Napper
I started writing this once, but I had too many thoughts and too many words, and I did not want to be up here speaking for too long, so I’m going to tell you what I find funny.
Black women have been victims for centuries.
They have been assaulted, raped, murdered, kidnapped, verbally abused, hated, and mocked by people we now have to call enemies.
Some of these problems aren’t problems exclusive to black women,
but no one seems to wanna talk about issues if they don’t affect them.
I read The Color Purple a year ago, and if you haven’t read it, I’ll give you a little synopsis.
Celie is a 14-year-old girl who writes letter to God about her father who rapes and abuses her, but adores her sis.
Then, she writes about her older husband who does the same shit.
I still haven’t told you what’s funny.
This story took place in the 1920s, and here it is almost 100 years later,
And black girls and women are still going through this.
Did you know more than half of black women have been sexually assaulted?
Did you know that black women make up 8% of the overall population,
but 22% of domestic violence homicides in the nation?
Some people will say that “They can always leave.”
The funny thing is, black women make less money than black men and white men and women, leaving them financially dependent on their abusers.
What’s that saying? Something like “Low-income women can’t be choosers?”
“Femicide” is the killing of females by males solely due to their gender.
Husbands and boyfriends are almost always the offenders.
The funny thing is, 93% of these homicides are intra-racial,
Meaning the killers are black men.
As a girl who loves black men, admitting that black men don’t always love us is painful.
Black men get away with too much because black women have to choose between their racial groups and gender groups.
Most of the time, their racial group is chosen.
And that is devotion.
The funny thing is, I can’t entirely blame black men.
They are also victims of oppression.
What may be important in understanding this
is to understand PTSS
Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome
Black folks have been a little messed up since they took us from home.
During slavery, Willie Lynch said black men were like wild horses—they had to be broken.
So black men went through a brutal process of emasculation.
Today, some of these black men do things because of this mentality,
But let’s get back to reality,
We gotta figure out what we are going to do now
We gotta figure out when we gone do it and how
We can start by addressing our mental health and well-being.
The funny thing is, the saying about “a strong, black woman” is doing more harm than good
Black women don’t seek counseling, but if we got rid of this saying, maybe they would.
Black men don’t want to go either because they are told to man up.
Then, we act surprised when their emotions build up and they erupt.
Violence against women is an issue, but black women are victims whose stories aren’t even written.
If anyone asks what I spoke about today, you don’t have to tell them the first thing I said or even the latter.
Just tell them what needs to be said and proven on the daily, #BlackWomenMatter